Military Life & Pregnancy.

This Friday I’ll be 32 weeks pregnant.  Where is the time going?  We are almost done with baby’s nursery, which is a relief, since I tend to feel like I’ll never be finished painting.

Overall, my pregnancy has been great, other than some kidney stones that decided to rear their ugly heads.  Normally, I feel well-rested & confident about what’s coming our way. I’m still running, albeit a bit slower than my norm, and have been attending a mom’s group called Hike it Baby.  It’s been really nice to make some friends, especially friends who are moms, and many who also are military spouses.

Speaking of the military, transitioning to life here has been the hardest.  When my husband and I met & got married, he was on a “shore duty” which meant his schedule was much more like a “normal” 9-5 and he came home every night.  Now, we’ve been here for nearly 5 months and he has been gone for at least 1/3 of that time and has duty days in addition to underways.  Plainly put, I miss him.  The emotions of pregnancy make his absences seem so much longer and painful and miserable, if I can complain for a moment.  When we came here, I felt ready & prepared for him to be gone more frequently, but once it actually started happening, I realized I didn’t want to be ready or prepared.  I don’t even want him to leave.  I cry every time he leaves, even though I try not to and try to wait until he has actually left.  It’s just so hard.

He will hopefully be home briefly when baby arrives, before leaving for a longer period of time.  This hurts my heart the most, because my husband is one of the most helpful and giving people and I don’t want our kiddo to miss out on any time spent bonding with his daddy.  I am so grateful for the sacrifices my husband makes, but I feel so guilty that he is going to miss out on this irreplaceable time in order to support us and help defend our country.

My plan so far is to have my husband prepare the recordable books we have been given and I also plan on making videos of him reading books/talking to play for baby.  I want to make sure he’s always on speakerphone when he calls.  I have grand plans of making videos showcasing “a day in our life” monthly to mail on flash drives, so I hope those pan out the way I am imagining them.  I also am going to buy magnet paper to print photos on that my husband can stick in his rack, and mail him photo books and pictures on a regular basis in care packages.  I just don’t feel like any of it is enough.

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3 thoughts on “Military Life & Pregnancy.

  1. United Military Travel

    It IS all enough and you are already so strong – you and your family are going to be fine! Military love is hard and we commend all military spouses out there for their sacrifices; do your best to keep your chin up and have a positive attitude! You and your family will benefit greatly by always looking at the glass half full 🙂

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  2. Biz

    I am sorry it’s so hard for you Errign, but I do think that babies bond first with Mom’s and then the Dad comes in – just my theory though! I am glad you are feeling food (even though this post is a couple weeks old!) and just wanted to send hugs your way. Could you imagine if we lived near each other how much food we’d make together??!! Hugs!

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